I was born and raised in southeastern Oklahoma until 2006 when I moved to
Flower Mound/Highland Village with my husband and children.
For 15 years I taught special education, first grade, and kindergarten. After almost ten years of numerous fertility treatments, including several reconstructive surgeries and nine in vitro fertilization attempts, I decided to go back to graduate school to get a masters degree in Counseling. I had a masters degree in Learning Disabilities but working in education was too painful every day. Working with children that needed adequate clothing and parents and knowing how desperately I wanted to be one was just TOO difficult. I knew I was doing everything possible to be a mom but it was not working. It seemed that after every in vitro attempt I gained more weight that would not come off. I was sad, depressed, and in a very low place in my life.
With a little more than one year left before completing my masters degree we adopted a beautiful baby boy, Matthew. I remember the day he was born thinking that my life would no longer be the same. I WAS RIGHT!!!! Four months later we adopted another beautiful baby boy, Zachary. With two infants only four months and five days apart, graduate school at night, and teaching part time, life was CRAZY but wonderful. Fitness was not a priority at that time. I eventually completed my education and became a ‘stay at home mom’. During that time I also completed national licensure for counseling and worked when life allowed.
My husband ran a successful business that allowed me to continue to stay home until the transportation industry suffered after September 11, 2001. After several years he was forced to close his business. We moved to Flower Mound in July of 2006 and I went back to work full-time for LISD. We had a precious baby boy Nathan in 2004.
The transition was difficult for all of us. After 29 years of marriage, my husband and I separated in 2013 and divorced in 2014. Currently, my oldest son, Matt is in active duty with the United States Navy, my middle son, Zac is a junior at the University of North Texas, and Nathan is in fifth grade. In May, 2013 I reached a point in my life when I decided to STOP making excuses for the life I was living and made a commitment to work diligently for the life I believe I was meant to have. Initially I think I felt I had to do it for my children following my divorce because if anything happened to me (heart attack, diabetes, death etc.) they would have minimal emotional, physical, and financial support. Since May 2013 I have lost 80 pounds. I still have a long way to go but I feel better about myself. I have accepted who GOD made me and am able to embrace the attributes that make me who I am. I also realize that HE created me to fulfill a ‘job’ that only I can complete. He has equipped me with the tools I need but I have to pick them up and use them. Some of the tools I have used to help me stay committed to my journey include, positive self talk, identifying and addressing my own faulty beliefs, working out and eating right even when I don’t feel like it or want to, asking GOD for help, and teaching and training myself to KEEP my eyes on the goal, prize, and end result instead of dwelling on the mistakes or failures I make.